How to become part of a Throuple

Group sex isn’t the taboo topic that it used to be. About one out of every six people in the United States say they would like to participate in a multi-partner relationship. If that doesn’t sound like a lot to you, keep in mind that it is about the same number of people who have a cat.

If you want to become a part of a throuple there are more opportunities than ever. However, it is important to understand what you are getting yourself into. Real non-monogamous sexual arrangements aren’t as simple as they make it look on Pornhub.

In this article, we look at how you can responsibly experiment with non-monogamy. Read on to learn how to become part of a throuple.

Initial Hurdle

The initial hurdle of joining a throuple often comes down to finding the right match. You might find a willing couple with room in their bed and a mind to share it, but most people won't simply stumble into group relationships.

Dating apps have made it easier to find willing participants, with several platforms specifically designed for polyamorous connections. These digital spaces help like-minded people find each other more easily than traditional dating methods.

Before diving in, you'll need to do some studying up. The polyamorous community has developed thoughtful frameworks around consent, communication, and managing multiple relationships respectfully. Resources like The Ethical Slut and More Than Two offer practical guidance on navigating these complex dynamics.

While polyamorous relationships are less restrictive than traditional monogamy, they're not a free-for-all. Don't enter expecting constant access to multiple-partner encounters. These relationships require emotional work, clear communication, and respect for everyone's boundaries and comfort levels.

Twice the Partners, Twice the Communication

You will need to really work on your communication. Twice the partners also mean twice the problems. Feelings are often a little more tender in group relationships. You need to make sure that you are hearing your partners, and also adequately communicating your preferences--both romantic and sexual--to them.

Naturally, as with any relationship, it is good to be really clear from the front end. Is this casual? Serious? To be determined?

It's also important to make sure that everyone involved in the throuple is fully comfortable with the partner dynamics. For example, if you are a woman entering a heterosexual couple, is the other woman truly gay or bisexual? Or are they experimenting as a way to please their partner?

For throuples to unfold the right way, a lot of stars need to align. Make sure you are aware and sensitive to these nuances by communicating as clearly as possible.

Be Ready for Challenges

Jealousy can happen in any relationship. It's particularly common in multi-partner dynamics. It is very natural for someone to worry that they aren't being given enough attention, that their needs aren't being met, or that they are the proverbial third wheel. The communication we mentioned in the last heading will help with these feelings.

It's also worth setting rules and guidelines. This can ensure that everyone feels like their needs are being met.

Common agreements might include scheduling regular one-on-one time with each partner, establishing boundaries around physical intimacy (like always involving all partners or requiring open communication about separate encounters), setting guidelines for bringing new partners into the relationship, and creating fair systems for shared responsibilities and decisions.

Some throuples also set agreements about how they'll present their relationship to family, friends, and coworkers, while others establish guidelines about sleeping arrangements or shared living spaces.

Troubleshooting a Throuple

Ultimately, while throuples can get complicated, they aren't intrinsically different from any other relationship. When things aren't working, counseling is often a good route to take. Be sure to vet counselors carefully.

Make sure that the person you pick is not only comfortable dealing with polyamory but also that they have done so in the past. Local polyamory groups often maintain lists of poly-friendly therapists, which can be a great starting point.

Remember that all relationships have highs and lows. Sometimes what seems like a throuple-specific problem might just be regular relationship growing pains. Issues like time management, emotional availability, or mismatched expectations come up in all relationships. They just involve more moving parts in a throuple.

There Must Be An Easier Way

Not Interested In All the Drama? Throuples can be great but if you are looking for something a little...easier there are other options. You don't need to enter into a committed three-way relationship to have tantalizing, multi-partner sexual encounters.

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